Sex In Marriage: The Basics - Part 2Sample

Redesigning Your Sexual Relationship

As we conclude these two reading plans on sex in marriage, I want to leave you with a game plan. In this last video I gave you some bullet points and I want to help make them practical and doable for you.

First, commit to work on your sex life together. What does that mean? It means you have to be open and honest with each other. You have to talk about what you like, don’t like and what you don’t know if you like. It means you will have to carve out time each week to work on it. That may mean farming the kids our for a night or staying up late after the kids are in bed. It may mean you get creative with times. Use your imagination!

Second, time is on your side. You don’t have to get it perfect today. Actually, you never have to get it perfect. As I look back at our sex life over the years, it has evolved and still is. Early marriage before kids was different than when we had kids and the empty nest brought back freedoms we had forgotten about! There were seasons when we got lazy with our sex life. That is normal for most of us, just don’t get stuck there. Sex is a powerful connection that you don’t want to put on the back burner because you are missing out when you do.

Third, use a loose definition of the word “work” when it comes to your sex life. It should be fun, exciting and something you enjoy together. When I use the word “work,” I just mean keep the focus on it. Is it the most important thing in a marriage? No. But it is certainly one of them.

Our prayer is that God uses these plans to help each of you have everything He designed for you in the sexual relationship in your marriage!

Today’s Challenge:

Share with each other how you would like your sexual relationship to be.

Going Deeper:

1. Has sex in your marriage become an object of stress and arguments? If so, what part do each of you play in that problem?

2. What are some things in the past that have gotten in the way of building a great sexual relationship? Will you commit to keep these from interfering in the future?

3. What does the word “commit” mean to you? Will you commit together to work on your sexual relationship?

4. Dr. Kim mentions a number of things to help you improve your sexual relationship. Decide your next step together.

Resource:

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