7 Truths of Marriage: How Two Become OneSample

Becoming Co-Visionaries

Do two walk together unless they have agreed to do so? Amos 3:3 (NIV)

“We’ll just agree to disagree.” While that comment might be an easy compromise between friends or co-workers, it is not helpful to a married couple. While you will have your own opinions, there is no space to agree to disagree when it comes to the vision and direction for your relationship. A marriage in contradiction cannot move forward together because moving forward looks different to each of you.

One of the best ways to ensure you both share the same vision for your marriage is to start by talking about what you want your relationship and your marriage legacy to look like. Next, talk about how you are both in agreement to pursue making the legacy a reality. The tangible pieces of your co-visionary process start by identifying key benchmarks as agreed upon by both of you.

Create a marriage vision plan. Write out a marriage mission statement, listing goals for activating the mission, and a set of core values that will guide, define, and hold your marriage vision accountable. Investing the time to develop and regularly revisit your legacy blueprint will help carry your legacy forward.

Truth Talk:

Start the process of talking about your marriage in terms of the bigger picture. Follow that up by writing out a marriage vision plan. Don’t hesitate to be as specific as you feel led to become as long as the details are agreeable to both. You will travel much further towards your goals once you move forward together.