[#Life] MarriageSample

Break Predictable Patterns and Have Fun

Often, after a few years of marriage, couples go from being soulmates to being roommates. We get into ruts. Instead of marriage being something celebratory and new—date nights, surprises, exciting times together—we end up in predictable patterns. You get to know each other so well you may end up getting mad at each other before even doing the thing that makes the other person mad, just because you knew they were going to act that way. You know each other so well your partner’s response to a situation is predictable. You expect each other to act or respond in a certain way because that is how they always respond. Sometimes, we start to fight before the fight because we know the fight is coming. To break a predictable pattern, we can start to respond differently.

When we start getting older, fun becomes a choice. Remember when you were a kid and fun seemed to find you anywhere? When we are young children we do not have to plan to have fun, we just have fun. It comes effortlessly. We start doing something, and there it is, we are having fun, without even looking for it. Once we get older, we need to make an effort to have fun. We have to decide and plan for it to happen. We start saying things like “Let’s do something fun,” and,  “What can we do to have fun?” Many times in order to have fun we have to get out of the rut we are in and do something new and different.

God does different things every day as his mercies are new every morning. He breaks predictable patterns all the time. 

Have you ever thought about what it means to be made in God's image? It means , we too, have the ability to do new things every day and to break with the old, predictable patterns and do things differently. Not only that, but the Lord also tells us in His Word to enjoy our lives and our spouse during the days of our life. We do not have to wait to do something different, to break with predictable patterns or to have fun. 

The time is now!

Thought of the Day

Do something new with your spouse and have fun together even if being a little "crazy". If you never order dessert when you go out to eat, next time order some dessert. If you do not hold hands when you go out for a walk, next time hold hands. Work out together. Dance together. Do something you have never done before with your spouse every week or every month.