Loved Baby: A 7-Day Plan After Pregnancy Loss Sample

Our minds swirl with negativity after loss, don’t they? Nightmares, traumatic recollections, whispers of blame. Beloved, if we don’t attempt to control our minds, our minds will soon control us. We must make an effort to train our minds to find good in spite of bad situations. 

No one should ask you at this point to find good in the death of your loved baby. We won’t understand that until we meet our heavenly Father. But what I’m encouraging you to do is to identify good in other aspects of your life. 

Throughout the day, can you be still and look around and find three things to count as blessings? Make it a habit of mind. These blessings might be small—like not getting caught in traffic on the way to work. They might be insignificant—like enjoying a decadent slice of choc­olate cake. Or they might be big—like looking out the window and witnessing a sunset drenched in colors. 

Even right in the middle of the painful now, you can find glimmers of glory. Remember the goodness that other people displayed after the death of your baby. The hugs they gave. The very fact that you cradled a loved baby within your womb. 

Mourning is a must, but at times we must refocus and identify hap­piness so we don’t let our souls dwell in darkness. We can visit grief, but we don’t need to make it a permanent home. Even though sadness overpowers your life right now, there are ways to find waves of blessings to cherish. God instructs us to “be thankful in all circumstances, for this is God’s will for you who belong to Christ Jesus” (1 Thessalonians 5:18). Grief isn’t something that easily passes. The storm will linger and revisit you, but you can be prepared for the days you are living. You know some moments will be a downpour and some moments will come on like a hurricane. But you can and will make it to calmer waters. 

In the meantime, anchor your soul in gratitude for what God has provided. Hold tight, dear friend. In the midst of the tempest, choose to cherish. It will help ease your soul and calm your mind.