Becoming A Mature LeaderSample

Becoming A Mature Leader, Part III

In their book, Rare Leadership in the Workplace: Four Uncommon Habits that Improve Focus, Engagement and Productivity, authors Marcus Warner and Jim Wilder unpack RARE as an acronym for how to become a mature leader. The first R stands for Remain Relational. The A stands for Act Like Yourself. The second R stands for Return to Joy.

Years ago, I asked an employee how she was doing. Although she answered, “Fine,” I could tell she wasn’t fine. Looking into her eyes I said, “How are you really doing?” 

The tears welled up as she began to share her fears and concerns. She later said that simple act helped her return to joy.

Proverbs 15:23 teaches, "A person finds joy in giving an apt reply—and how good is a timely word!"

As mature leaders, it’s important that we are cognizant of those around us who are currently living in fear and need some joy.

Questions for Reflection:     

• What do you think is the main reason some business leaders fail to recognize or address the personal needs of those around them?     


• Think of a time when another brought joy into your workday with a “timely word” as it says in Proverbs. How did that affect your job performance?     


• Who do you think benefits most from a “timely word” – the giver or the receiver?